5 Ways to be Happy and Fulfilled
Yesterday, I attended the First Friday mass at a nearby church. The Priest gave a wonderful and inspiring Homily. The gospel reading yesterday was about the BEATITUDES. Because the BEATITUDES responds to our desire for happiness. He focused his homily on a book about How to be Happy and Fulfilled in life.
These are the ways in which we can be happy and fulfilled in life:
1. Follow your heart’s desire
First of all we should know what are our innermost desires and longings are. Take time to really discover it. Sometimes, we already know it but we fail to recognize what is it. Try to meditate and have a quiet time. We should then discover it, then knowing what it is, then we should follow our heart’s desires. A good example is I know of somebody who is a licensed practicing doctor. But then his passion is really to teach others then he gave up his practice and concentrated on his teaching career.
2. No regrets – whatever circumstances we are now in life we should accept it and embrace it. A very good question is : if you were given a new lease in life, do you will want the life you have now? The people you have and the circumstances where you are now? If your answer is a big YES, then happiness will surely come to you. Embracing the things and people we have around us now will surely bring us happiness. Like, given a chance – will you still marry the husband you have now? Will you still go to the same school you are attending now? Will you still choose that work you have now?
3. Be a being of love – becoming a loving being. We should be a person who radiates love around us. There are different categories of love.
A.) Love is eros – physical attraction. You are attracted to someone because he/she is beautiful and attractive. But this kind of love is passing. Because when physical attributes fades – our love fades too through time.
B.) Love is Philia – These kind of love is better personified by a philanthropist. A person who goes out of his way to reach out to other people in need. A brotherly love. Willing to be of service to other people always.
C.) Love is agape – universal love, a love which is unconditional. A love rising above the circumstances. It means doing good for all mankind.
There is that love which is difficult to explain, its called mystical agape. One wherein you look beyond the person – you see the divinity in every person. You never judge but you purely appreciate. Thereby only good things come out of the person. There are no negative feelings.
4. Give more than you take – when you become a being of love. Your tendency to be of service to others is almost inherent. It comes out naturally and you do not measure how much you have given but you give your all for someone in need. And not expecting something in return.
5. Cry more for the world than for your own little world. You have to be compassionate and not self centered. Think more of others than yourself.
These things maybe very hard for us to follow but at the end of the day, the ultimate question that will be asked of us is that HAVE WE LOVED?
How about you? How did you love?