When I was still a small child, I can vividly remember that my Mom would always tell me how to behave properly in public. In our school Good Manners and Right Conduct were taught. We became aware on how to deal with others. Foremost is respect and honor to anybody that we get in contact with. Growing up , it became inherent in me to respect and honor people whom I encounter. It’s innate , it’s in the deepest core of my being. And so I believe that how we react to situations and to people around us comes from within. How we were trained and how our parents taught us is there inside of us. As parents, we should train and mold our children to respect and honor others. For only in respecting and honoring others will we be able to make this world a better place to live in.
Just recently our youngest son graduated from University. We all meet up in the US to attend his graduation ceremony. We had a most exciting, happy and memorable five (5) days together as a family. It made me realize that meeting up the whole family will be rare these days knowing that each child is working in a different continent and timing their work vacations will be hard. And gathering them all again in one roof will be much harder. But one thing is for sure, we can always be in touch with each other through whats up, wechat, facetime, etc. After all, family is family – we will always be there for each other.
So for all those families with small children, hug them, embrace them, have bonding times together as a family because when they all grow up it will be different.
Its School time once again and my eldest son is now a sophomore and another son on his freshmen year and another son going to college next year. Yes all three of them will be in college soon and we will be empty nesters once again. But before i dwell on that, let me share with you the things needed for your freshmen to start a new life on his own.
Here, i will be dealing more with the things that they need to pack. Most Freshmen live in the dorms. And knowing that they do not really know what they will be bringing. Its best that we guide them.I am not spoon feeding them but guiding them on how to do things properly for them to succeed in life.
First things first. Let them pack their own bags. Give them a list of the essential things that they need to bring. never, never pack their things. Let them do it.
Allow me to list them for you.
- Passport and other travel documents should be in his backpack not in his luggage. Make sure he has a pen in his backpack.
- Appropriate clothes for the weather they will be in
- Shoes, socks and slippers
- A pack of first aid kits ( preferably label them so they know when to use them)
- Pain Relievers
- Cold & cough medications
- Anti-allergy meds
- Gauze and plaster ( Band-aid)
Things you need to buy before move in day:
- Bedsheets ( usually dorm beds are Twin extra long beds), pillow cases, blanket, comforter, pillows and mattress protector
- Hand, face and Bath towels
- Soap, shampoo, toothbrush and toothpaste, shower tote/caddy
- Laundry basket/bag ( buy the twin pack one where you can separate the whites from the colored), Laundry soap, Fabric Softener and Fabric Softener Sheets
- Plate, bowl, cup, spoon and fork
- Microwavable plates, paper plates, disposable spoons and forks and cups
- Flashlight with a set of batteries( place them in a zip lock bag so they can come in handy)
- Alarm Clock
- Study Lamp
- Iron and Ironing board
- School supplies
- Noodle cups, chips and other favorite food that can be stored for a long time.
- Some double sided tapes should they need to post some stuff.
And last but not the least your unending LOVE & SUPPORT!
From a cocoon, a beautiful butterfly emerges. And this butterfly soars its way up high to new places and encounters new things.
Just like our children, we nurture them, we teach them, we give them all our love and care. And when the time has come of letting them go sometimes or rather most of the time its hard.
Have you ever experienced sending off your children in a far away land and not being able to come to them when they need you because time and space does not permit it?
Let me share with you what i went through last year and again will be going through this year and then again next year.
Saying goodbye to them is pretty hard.
First i had to deal with all the college applications that they go through. Then the visas and before you know it its enrollment time. I had to get to know the school that they will be going to. The maps,places nearby, the transportation , the weather and even such things as the nearest church that they will go to and the schedule of masses during Sundays. I had it all printed out and studied how they will go about with their daily activities. I had it all mapped out but not telling them that i was doing such things so that they would do it on their own too. I also ordered on line the linens that they will need and had it delivered before we arrived.
Then i was busy telling them what to bring and what not to bring. I printed out a list of things that they should bring. I also prepared a first aid kit, complete with medicines and properly labeled as to when they will drink it. I also gave them an organized folder containing photo copies of their birth certificate, baptismal certificate, passport and visa page ( for US, a copy of the I20 and Sevis receipt). Inside that accordion folder i also placed printed copies of prayers and other religious items. Yes, i was overly concerned with things. But i needed that,not only to ensure that they will be ok but more so to affirm myself that i have given them everything that they needed as they start their new life.
But most of all i always let them feel that they are important to me and whatever, i would be doing once they call i would drop everything for them. Assuring them that I am still around eventhough distance is the problem can alleviate their fears too.
They will gain confidence when they are assured of all our love and support.
On our part, we just need to PRAY a lot that everything will be ok for them and they are always in God’s hands.